Episode 78: When the past is present

In this episode I have delight of connecting with psychotherapist and author David Richo from California, USA. In our conversation we explore the different ways in which transference plays a part in our daily lives, especially in intimate relationships. Why is it that our experiences from early life are carried over into the present? How come it´s so challenging  to be fully present to the people we share our lives with? How can we address our unfinished business (such as unmet needs and emotional wounds from childhood) and resolve these issues as they arise in our daily life? These are just some of the topics covered in our dialogue, and David goes on to describe a relational practice called “safe conversations” that can support healing and growth in the midst of our relationships. Towards the end David shares his perspectives on the connections between psychological work and spiritual practice.

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Episode links:
David Richo
When the Past is Present, book written by David Richo
Being an Adult in Love, book written by David
Transference in Daily Life, video lecture by David Richo 
James Alexander Arnfinsen (redaktør)
James Alexander Arnfinsen (33) er lærer og arbeider ved Åsvang Skole i Trondheim. Han har i tillegg en variert opplæring innenfor dialogbasert prosessledelse, nærværstrening og konflikthåndtering. I fritiden trener og instruerer han aikido. Han er oppvokst i Oslo, men har studert og arbeidet i Trondheim siden 2005. Ta kontakt med James på følgende adresse: james.arnfinsen @ gmail.com
James Alexander Arnfinsen (redaktør)
James Alexander Arnfinsen (33) is a teacher, his subjects being geography, religious studies and sports science. He is currently working as a teacher in primary school. In his free time he practices Aikido, a Japanese martial art that in it´s essence is about creating a healing relationship towards oneself and others. James lives in Trondheim, Norway.